Wanna Come Over For Dinner? ... The Dreaded Words!

"Hey, Lori! Wanna come over for dinner?" is supposed to be the kindest offer someone can make. But to people with food sensitivities, it can cause a panic! 

What about "I brought donuts!!" Wow, this reminds me of a dear sweet Indian gentleman I knew years ago. He was in his 80's and he brought donuts to a meeting. He tried to give me one. Sooo kind, right? But the trouble was that he wouldn't take no for an answer. When I finally said I was allergic, he said "how could anyone be allergic to donuts?" I KNOW RIGHT??

There's a few friends that understand my dilemma and I never question it when they invite me over. Mom of course, Sandra (she can cook for me any time), Jessica (this girl made me pizza and dessert!), Jane (made me Thai food!), Crystal (knows what's what), Reba (is a paleo mastermind). Other people try so hard, but asking them 20 questions before eating is a chore for them and for me. My goal is to educate others, and keep me and my family safe.

I know you don't want people to be offended when you bring your own food, or when you say no to the beautiful meal they cooked.

For me, I don’t just sneeze once or twice or have a stuffy nose. I get terrible pain in my joints that lasts for days. And oh the headache. My mood and attitude are ATROCIOUS! Anger comes in the first day or two. Then anxiety for a few days. Then depression. Seriously, that beautiful soup you made could make me miserable for more than a week. I know you don't want that!

Please understand: we need to be in control of our food. Our family eats really well, lots of variety, probably gourmet quality, and everyone eats the same foods. So nobody feels deprived.

So, what do you do when someone invites you over? You have a couple of choices:

---->You could talk it out and tell them all your sensitivities and take a shot in the dark that they understand
---->Or you could bring some of your own food with you… It’s so much easier!

Your real friends will understand, and everyone else, well do you want to be friends with them?

Next week, my mom is guest posting and you're gonna love what she has to say, especially if you have kids!!

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Who Do You Let Cook For You?

You've probably had a situation similar to this happen to you:

"Can you come over for dinner🍽️?" Does your heart just sink when you hear those words?

"We'd love to. I just have to let you know I have food allergies (I've found that's the easiest way for people to understand)?"

"What are you allergic to?"

"Wheat and dairy."

"No worries. I never use wheat."

Do you believe it? I didn't either. So we had a long conversation and she guaranteed it. Guess what the menu was….

Cornbread 🍞, mac and cheese, fried fish, fried chicken, greens, salad with croutons, cake 🍰, pie 🥧…. 🤦! Talk about feeling alienated! Take it from me, people just don't understand!

There was a dear sweet lady at that party who heard I couldn't eat anything. She found a piece of untreated fish for me, and she took it in another room and cooked it up nice for me! I had that with the greens and I was good to go.

I've learned a workaround for this situation that I'm gonna share with you next week!

I have had some very sweet people make me cakes. I must be a cake 🎂 magnet! This one I couldn't touch, which I think was for our anniversary (probably the first or second!) Funny when people ask you to "cut the cake" together. Sure feels weird. It doesn't make for good relations when you won't take a bite!

This one was made by my mom for our 10th anniversary. My mom has totally wrapped her head around cooking for food sensitivities, and I am willing to guarantee that that good lady could make something for people who are sensitive to water. She's cooked grain free (not just wheat free!), dairy free, sugar free foods for me for years! (This cake was gluten free made with this flour.) AND she's an amazing cook and baker. I'm hoping to get her to write an article for you soon. Look out for that!

Here's a quick recipe for a Paleo Chocolate Cake in a Mug:

  • 2 T. Maple Syrup or Honey
  • 2 T. Oil or Ghee
  • 1 Egg 
  • A splash of vanilla
  • 3 T. Almond Flour (that's a link to a good quality one)
  • 2 T. Cocoa Powder
  • A pinch of salt 
  • 1/4 tsp. baking soda
Mix up the egg, oil, syrup and vanilla in a small bowl or mug. Add the dry ingredients. Combine. Put in the microwave for about 1 and a half minutes. Enjoy!!

My Wedding Day.... Without Grains!

I'm a huge proponent of enjoying your food! You deserve to love everything you eat, and enjoy the process of sitting at the table with friends and family.Sometimes, though, having a food sensitivity, or especially multiple sensitivities, can cause a huge problem!

Rewind to my wedding….

I have a gluten sensitivity. I can't get a diagnosis, but I think it's non-celiac gluten sensitivity. Joint pain. Anger. Exhaustion. It's not pretty.

So, I figured it would be a bad idea to have cake at my wedding. I mean, who wants to spend $1200 for something at your wedding that you can't eat (and that will make you sick for your whole honeymoon)? Honestly, I had a real attitude about it, and I knew it could be done well. In fact, we got some really irritated people when we told them we weren't having a cake. OUR WEDDING. OUR RULES, RIGHT?

But I digress. I wanted to share this picture I found, because the amazing people at the Crofton Country Club where we had our wedding (all the way back in 2001!) arranged a beautiful dessert for us. They knew I LOVE chocolate, so for Chuck and me, they made these beautiful chocolate cups and filled them with lemon sorbet and chocolate covered strawberries. With mint leaves! Oh my goodness, it was so beautiful.And that crazy friend that was mad at us for not having a cake. Guess what? He said he didn't even miss the cake. In fact, he also said that the chocolate covered strawberries and lemon sorbet were the best dessert he'd had at a wedding.

So, here's my advice to you. Think outside of the box. You can do this! You don't need to follow food trends. You can go your own way, in your home, at your restaurant, when you go out to dinner, or when you cater an event! You might be surprised at the joy it can bring to people's lives.

Food Sensitivity Symptoms

When I was a kid, I had so many weird health problems for a kid in the 80’s. Headaches, sinus infections, bronchitis, joint pain (my feet and knees ALWAYS hurt), tiredness, hyperactivity. What kid had THOSE issues in the good ol’ 80’s?

However, those kind of health issues are considered totally “normal” today, not only in adults, but also in kids. Add in the anger and anxiety, ADHD, etc, and we have a crop of people who feel like 💩 all the time. If they only knew that a few simple tweaks could make them feel sooooo much better!

Today I want to talk about what symptoms could be caused by sensitivities, and what may be causing them. If your doc says you’re fine, but you don’t feel fine, why not look into food sensitivities? Some docs say intolerance is only a digestive issue. But there are many other symptoms that can be caused by food sensitivities.

Symptoms of sensitivities fall in several categories:

  • Digestive: bloating, gas, reflux, diarrhea, constipation, weight gain
  • Skin: acne, eczema, dry and itchy, undereye circles (allergy shiners)
  • Respiratory: sinus congestion, runny nose
  • Psychological: brain fog, hyperactivity, depression, anxiety
  • Other: inflammation, joint pain, migraines and headaches, chronic ear infections
What could be the culprits??

  • Dairy (milk, cheese)
  • Gluten (wheat, rye, barley)
  • Corn (GMO!)
  • Soy
  • Eggs (whites and/or yolks)
  • Livestock raised on corn 😬
  • Artificial colors
  • MSG (google Chinese restaurant syndrome)
A huge goal in life in my early 20’s was to be able to feel well enough to hang out with friends in the evening and be able to do my work the next day. Once I found out what my sensitivities were, my quality of life did a total 180. Now, in my 40’s, I feel better than I did in my 20’s, I exercise, I eat right, I sleep great, and I have the energy to spend time with people and still accomplish secular work and volunteer work.

Here’s the great news: If you stop eating the foods you’re sensitive to, you’ll feel better pretty quickly! A lot of this information is from EverlyWell, and they do at home sensitivity testing. Would you like to try it?
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Food Allergies or Food Sensitivities?

One of the questions I get a lot is "what's the difference between an allergy and a sensitivity?" This is such a great question!

As of now, I don't have any true food allergies that I know of, but I have a ton of sensitivities. My goal is to get to my doc when this pandemic declines a bit and get a food allergy test. I've never had food allergy testing because I don’t typically have a histamine reaction when I eat. The doctor wants to see if some of my inflammation is from food allergies.

Histamine reactions from allergies can include itching, sneezing, throat closing, hives, etc. Hence the term antihistamine when you are having an allergy attack. These are immune system responses from an invader that the immune system thinks is dangerous. Get. It. Out!

A food sensitivity is different. Most common symptoms are bloating and gastrointestinal upset, anxiety, headaches, migraines, cough, runny nose, joint pain, tiredness and fatigue. When I ate all the foods I was sensitive to, I had constant sinus infections and bronchitis, so it can affect your ability to fight off sickness as well.

For me, these symptoms come within hours to days of the time I eat the food. The bloat starts quickly, but the joint pain and fatigue is usually at day 3. I also get very angry for a day, which turns to anxiety. My poor husband. This is why I’m so careful with what I eat. It’s not just a half a day where I feel bad. It’s usually a week!

There are two kinds of tests you can get for allergies and sensitivities. Allergies are tested with the iGe test and sensitivities are tested with the iGg test.

iGe (immunoglobulin E) tests an immediate response to a substance in your body. You can get his blood test done at the doctor’s office for foods or external allergies. Many insurances cover this.

iGg (immunoglobulin G) tests something much subtler, food sensitivities. These reactions last longer than the iGe allergy. When you have food sensitivities, your body produces iGg antibodies which lead to the inflammatory process. A lot of insurance doesn't cover this test, and it's pretty expensive, which is why some companies have come up with some at home tests that are much more affordable.

You should see a doctor for the iGe test, but the iGg test can be done at home. Here’s a 15% off coupon for EverlyWell, one of the most popular sites for sensitivity testing these days.

Next week, I'm going to talk about some of the symptoms of food sensitivities.

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