Wanna Come Over For Dinner? ... The Dreaded Words!

"Hey, Lori! Wanna come over for dinner?" is supposed to be the kindest offer someone can make. But to people with food sensitivities, it can cause a panic! 

What about "I brought donuts!!" Wow, this reminds me of a dear sweet Indian gentleman I knew years ago. He was in his 80's and he brought donuts to a meeting. He tried to give me one. Sooo kind, right? But the trouble was that he wouldn't take no for an answer. When I finally said I was allergic, he said "how could anyone be allergic to donuts?" I KNOW RIGHT??

There's a few friends that understand my dilemma and I never question it when they invite me over. Mom of course, Sandra (she can cook for me any time), Jessica (this girl made me pizza and dessert!), Jane (made me Thai food!), Crystal (knows what's what), Reba (is a paleo mastermind). Other people try so hard, but asking them 20 questions before eating is a chore for them and for me. My goal is to educate others, and keep me and my family safe.

I know you don't want people to be offended when you bring your own food, or when you say no to the beautiful meal they cooked.

For me, I don’t just sneeze once or twice or have a stuffy nose. I get terrible pain in my joints that lasts for days. And oh the headache. My mood and attitude are ATROCIOUS! Anger comes in the first day or two. Then anxiety for a few days. Then depression. Seriously, that beautiful soup you made could make me miserable for more than a week. I know you don't want that!

Please understand: we need to be in control of our food. Our family eats really well, lots of variety, probably gourmet quality, and everyone eats the same foods. So nobody feels deprived.

So, what do you do when someone invites you over? You have a couple of choices:

---->You could talk it out and tell them all your sensitivities and take a shot in the dark that they understand
---->Or you could bring some of your own food with you… It’s so much easier!

Your real friends will understand, and everyone else, well do you want to be friends with them?

Next week, my mom is guest posting and you're gonna love what she has to say, especially if you have kids!!

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Who Do You Let Cook For You?

You've probably had a situation similar to this happen to you:

"Can you come over for dinner🍽️?" Does your heart just sink when you hear those words?

"We'd love to. I just have to let you know I have food allergies (I've found that's the easiest way for people to understand)?"

"What are you allergic to?"

"Wheat and dairy."

"No worries. I never use wheat."

Do you believe it? I didn't either. So we had a long conversation and she guaranteed it. Guess what the menu was….

Cornbread 🍞, mac and cheese, fried fish, fried chicken, greens, salad with croutons, cake 🍰, pie 🥧…. 🤦! Talk about feeling alienated! Take it from me, people just don't understand!

There was a dear sweet lady at that party who heard I couldn't eat anything. She found a piece of untreated fish for me, and she took it in another room and cooked it up nice for me! I had that with the greens and I was good to go.

I've learned a workaround for this situation that I'm gonna share with you next week!

I have had some very sweet people make me cakes. I must be a cake 🎂 magnet! This one I couldn't touch, which I think was for our anniversary (probably the first or second!) Funny when people ask you to "cut the cake" together. Sure feels weird. It doesn't make for good relations when you won't take a bite!

This one was made by my mom for our 10th anniversary. My mom has totally wrapped her head around cooking for food sensitivities, and I am willing to guarantee that that good lady could make something for people who are sensitive to water. She's cooked grain free (not just wheat free!), dairy free, sugar free foods for me for years! (This cake was gluten free made with this flour.) AND she's an amazing cook and baker. I'm hoping to get her to write an article for you soon. Look out for that!

Here's a quick recipe for a Paleo Chocolate Cake in a Mug:

  • 2 T. Maple Syrup or Honey
  • 2 T. Oil or Ghee
  • 1 Egg 
  • A splash of vanilla
  • 3 T. Almond Flour (that's a link to a good quality one)
  • 2 T. Cocoa Powder
  • A pinch of salt 
  • 1/4 tsp. baking soda
Mix up the egg, oil, syrup and vanilla in a small bowl or mug. Add the dry ingredients. Combine. Put in the microwave for about 1 and a half minutes. Enjoy!!